...waiting

It's been far too long. It's coming to the end of July. Nearly one year ago I posted my first blog entry. The cliche, "The more things change, the more they stay the same." comes to mind. Maybe it's because we/I don't really change; the details are different but I'm not sure they are relevant. Nonetheless, here's some updating info on the details...

Home - I continue to live in my wonderful cottage in the mountains of northern New Hampshire. The temperatures are never too warm here, my home is surrounded by large oak and maple trees which provide much shade during these long days of summer. The spiders and I have found some grace for each other. Every now and again I become 'Hurricane Martha' with a vacuum cleaner and suck up their intricately spun webs around the inside of the house; and like the persevering residents of the Gulf coast, they rebuild and continue their lives in the dark corners and high places. The bears (I've now distinguished at least 2) visit mostly in the very early morning but now that the birdfeeder is down, no more close encounters.

Work - I continue to work part-time at the Jefferson shelter with the crazy young'uns. They are nothing if not entertaining, creative, lively, and beautiful. Their histories and life circumstances sometimes cause me to break wide open and sob. Other times, I give in to the need to distance myself and guard my heart so that I can do my job, complete their paperwork, and facilitate some groups in a professional way. I'm enjoying the work more as a half-timer but I know that this arrangement will soon come to an end; NCS needs a full-time clinician and I would like to do more therapy, particularly with adults, parents, and families.

Country - I'm waiting for the US Citizenship and Immigration Service (USCIS) to levy their final decision on my status as a Permanent Resident. This is a wild one. A month or so ago I received word that the department was challenging the legitimacy of my status and I was asked to respond with further documentation substantiating my original application for a Green Card two years ago (it's a long story). Essentially, their decision could go either way. They may grant my application and thus I can continue to live in the US or they may deny my application and ask me to return to 'my home and native land.' I had a tough first 24 hours after getting their letter, lots of emotions and fears rolled through me. And then I let go and did what needed to be done.

Options - Well,... it doesn't take a rocket scientist to appreciate that there is a period of waiting taking place right now. I'm waiting to find out if I will stay in New England or return to Ontario. I've got some options in mind but I wonder if this isn't just a distraction from the pounding silence that encircles me as I wait to see what Life will bring. When I frame it for myself in this way, I become more aware of the potential richness in the relative stillness.

But instead, to break the agitation that I often feel at times of waiting... wondering... anticipating... hoping... fearing... imagining - before the exhale that comes from finally receiving 'word,' I create plans and cultivate a plethora of ideas. I have looked at puppies for adoption. I have applied and been accepted into a school program for the fall. I have checked out job listings. I have gotten (some) car repairs done and re-licensed my VW for New Hampshire. I have looked at possible home rentals for the winter. I have printed off the requirements for licensure as a therapist in NH and VT. I have travelled to different parts of Vermont and New Hampshire to get a feel for where I might want to build a life. I have re-visited Ontario and family in hopes of discovering if there is a possible home and community for me there.

The one thing I notice that has really changed since receiving the letter from USCIS is that much of my writing activity has become suspended as I have suspended myself in waiting. I don't know why I have been more resistant to writing but I notice I am often too agitated to sink into writing and I feel compelled to take the actions which will be required for various possible outcomes.

I read back over my words above and I feel sad. I'm sad that with this seemingly real experience of waiting that I am in I have, in some ways, stopped living. Every now and again the sound of the wind in the high branches and leaves catches me off guard and captures my full attention. Every now and again, the early morning light discovers its way through the web-covered windows and lands on Bradford while he loses himself in reading, and my heart swells. Every now and again I remember to exhale.

But then I recall that I'm still waiting and I again lose my senses to planning. Maybe in all this waiting I am simply grasping for something to hold onto, whether it's a puppy or a new possibility.

A year ago I imagined myself taking a period of time to journey. I figured I'd be travelling for awhile and looking for a place to build a life. Low and behold, life unfolded, and yet the destination I thought I sought was nowhere to be found, is nowhere to be found. Just here. Just now. There is no waiting because there is nothing coming. And the more prepared I want to be for the nothing that is coming, the more prepared I better be to wake up now.